Honestly, whoever have not in their life compare themselves with others? Many people tend to compare themselves in areas like their intelligence, their appearance, how polite they are, how well-mannered he is, or how confident they look. Well, we all do, especially me.
Since young, I've always compared myself with many girls that they are taller, skinnier, prettier, their hair are so long and thick and luscious, her legs are so long and smooth without cellulites and the list goes on and on and on and on..
The truth is, comparisons only pulls you down, unless you're comparing to motivate yourself and not whine about how she has the time or he can afford it or something. If you only feel so low and demotivated by the comparisons, then STOP COMPARING. Because comparing oneself with another does not make you any better or worse, it's like a wheel chair, you keep rocking and rocking but yet you aren't moving backward or forward. So what's the point?
Another truth is that every individual in life are different. No one is born the same (except identical twins, but they have different DNA!) and everyone has their own talents and everyone's body is different. Yes, some are taller than the other, some are chubbier than the other, some are bigger than the other, and everyone has different bone structure! So why compare yourself to Gwyneth Paltrow's body when you have Marilyn Monroe's? Everyone have their own beauty and flaws.
If there are ever a comparison made, it is with YOURSELF. You are your own enemy. You can either beat yourself till you're down the ground, or you can pull yourself up and be better than who you were yesterday. Nothing is better than to know that you are doing better than what you did yesterday. Focus on the TODAY, focus on the NOW, because tomorrow can worry by itself.
Matthew 6:34
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."
The reason why I post about this topic now is because for the past week, all I've been doing was comparing myself with some of my friends who are also in the same fitness journey. All I see in them (or on them!) was progress, progress, and MORE PROGRESS! That was the trigger. I have stop eating healthy, stop working out, lost all my motivation, and I've even asked myself, "What's the point?". It was stupid of me to do that, I should have known and remind myself, "SMALL PROGRESS IS STILL PROGRESS! I am doing this for myself, not to please others!".
Falling downwards is the worst thing that could happen. I have gained back what I lost over the one month plus, and even worse, I've lost my motivation and determination. But you know what? It is not impossible to get it back! Just tell yourself, I want to be healthier, I want to be happy! I know that it's those "Easier said than done" kind of thing, but hey, nothing worth being easy, right?
Getting back on track would be for another post, but as for now, just remember.. Comparing yourself with some other people are just a waste of time and life unless you're doing it as a motivation. Fitness is for yourself, for the body that you want, for the active life that a healthy person can have, because all these, though, aren't easy, but it sure is hell worth it.
Be fitter and healthier you!
